Self-confidence is a tricky thing. A lot of problems with self-confidence seem to stem from obsession with a singular perceived flaw. Sometimes this flaw is conflated into many flaws, but the source is usually a singular problem.
If you are concerned about your weight and think it makes you unattractive, then you will begin to think there is nothing likeable about you when the root of the issues is your own self-image. We tend to catastrophize.
Several simple ways to change this mindset is to actively think about your better qualities. Some people are able to think about things and use rational thinking to mitigate their worries. Other people surround themselves with friends and other people who care about them to show that they are worthy. Typically, I like to do things that I know I am good at.
When I struggle to learn new things or if I am continuing to trying at something I want to better myself at, I will take a break and go back to something I know I can do. A lot of times, it clears whatever mental roadblock I have and the next time I try the new thing, it is so much easier.
Practice makes better. If you put yourself out there more, you teach yourself that the bad outcome you may have been afraid of is not actually that bad. Scared to give a presentation at work, the more you do it, the easier it gets. Prepare yourself as best as you can and try. Practice giving the presentation at home. The more you are in this position the more relaxed you will be. The more relaxed you are, the more confident you become.
Confidence is a mindset. It is a habit. The more positive you think about yourself, the more confident you will become. Constantly dismissing yourself and giving into self-doubt, the less confident you will become. With the right support and practice, self-confidence can be built over time.
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