Honestly, over the past few years it has been my friends with kids of their own. Watching how they have raised such smart, compassionate children has been a joy. I have taken a lot of advice from them.
When I worked, I admired people who worked hard and were the best at what they did. I asked them for all their tips and tricks. It was in their best interest as I then became a a trusted co-worker who could help them out when they were in a bind.
All in all, I admire people who are skilled. I ask advice from people who have proven themselves to be good at what they do.
I ask my mom for advice, but it is mostly to see what I should not do. Sometimes she does have very good advice. She is a very rational person and she has lived through a lot of hard things. That advice from her is always valuable, but I would not take parenting advice from her.
I think a lot of people tend to misconstrue these things. If you like someone or they are good at one thing, it does not mean they are good at the thing you are asking for help at.
I used to do surveys for spare cash. They hated my answers from a lot of companies because I do not want to take financial advice from random celebrities. It is funny because one of the ones they were trying to sell me on later claimed bankruptcy.
Right now I am connecting with a lot of people about grief. We are sharing the ways we deal with it and how we begin to move on with our lives.
There is always someone out there that is more knowledgeable or successful than you that you can ask advice from. You tend to find them when you need them.
Mother of Trauma 
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