Trust your instincts?

Honestly, I think I have only regretted my decisions when I have gone against my instincts. Every time I was talked out of what my gut told me was the right course of action, I have regretted it.

I am not sure if things would have worked out had I just believed in it more, or if the advice was doomed from the start. There have also been times where I really wanted to believe someone else’s plan or idea would fix things, and I tried really hard and it just failed.

All the professionals that have worked with my kids say that theirs is a very complicated case. Over the years, I have learned that they do not fit the cookie cutter solutions that I have been given for a variety of issues my kids have suffered through.

In the beginning, I really tried to do all the things we were told. All the charts, the tricks, the tips and all the certified therapeutic interventions have been tried in my home. Some things helped with some things, but there is just not a simple cure all for mental health issues compounded with developmental issues.

A few times, sticking to the plans some of our earlier professionals gave us did a lot more harm than good. Being a new parent, I was not great at advocating for our family. We were told a lot of times that we had never been parents before, so we did not know anything. Several providers thought we were making up a lot of things, only to discover a year later that what we originally reported was accurate.

It was a long, hard road. To this day and probably until the day I die, I will wonder what would have happened if I trusted my instincts in the beginning. If I had stood up against some of the plans and ideas that I think in the end just really hurt everyone in my home. If I had trusted my instincts, where would we be now?