pot meet kettle

I have had several phone calls from the school this week about my youngest. She is struggling with her now ex-boyfriend trauma dumping on her. As I listen to the mental health team on the phone, I just find myself laughing at the ridiculousness of her complaints.

Both my kids- not just my youngest- constantly trauma dump on all their peers. It is absolutely nuts how they will just shout it out in a quiet room filled with their peers. I have seen it in action. It is jaw dropping.

So her complaints are that he should not be telling her or anyone else about all his issues, his feelings about his past trauma or how he is angry at people in his life and wishes them harm. As she tells me about this situation, I just find myself like a cartoon character staring at her and blinking because there is just nothing to say to this.

She has lost so many friends due to her trauma dumping. She even continues to do it. It is just a bizarre thing to complain about when other people have tried to get her to stop in the past.

My role is to be the parent. I applaud her attempts at setting boundaries because she really does need to work on that. I also encourage her to continue to use her school support team to get through this situation. However, I would not be a very good parent if I do not wait until a good moment to go over how this is similar to complaints against her in the past and how others must have felt. She responded to this with a very heavy sigh. Then she said very rushed, “I don’t do that anymore!” In my kids’ language that means it has been about two weeks since the last time.

She says that this incident is now resolved. However, she now has drama with two more peers. Something to look forward to after spring break.